From Division to Connection – it’s all about perspective!
We are in a time in our society where we are experiencing unprecedented division yet as humans we are innately in need of connection. The experience of division has always been part of our existence, as we all have opinions and we each tend to assume our opinion is correct. One of the ways we tend to make ourselves right is to make others wrong. This tug of war between opinions creates division, which in turn creates separation and isolation. The thing is, no one opinion is 100% correct or 100% incorrect. There are varying levels of perception of correctness depending upon popular opinion at that time and your personal perception of the world. If you are in agreement with the popular opinion of the moment, you are considered correct by the majority, and sadly, everyone else becomes labelled in some way. This may be a mild response such as ‘I do not agree with you’, or it may be more extreme labelling such as name-calling, insults, shaming or ostracization.
The current divisions and contrast between the extremes have created some intense feelings on each side of the debates. People in each position are certain they are correct and have found evidence to support their position. This gathering of evidence works from the principle that-like-supports-like. Think of buying a new car; as you are thinking about that particular car you tend to attract or notice more examples of it or something similar to it. In more metaphysical terms you are attuned to that vibration so you attract it into your experience. The Galactic Council refers to this as the Law of Resonance, which also applies to our beliefs, as we become convinced of something we tend to attract evidence to support that belief.
Those with opposing opinions each feel they are correct because they have attracted evidence to support their point of view and are often unwilling to listen to another’s point of view. This conflict and need to be right, creates the energy of judgement and disharmony for all involved.
An Unprecedented Time
We truly are in an unprecedented time on our planet! Never in our recorded history has the entire planet experienced the type of shut-down, where we have been told to be so afraid that we should walk away from gainful employment and stay home even if that means we no longer have the ability to feed and support ourselves and our families. Historically, many people in the western world have been taught to create a 3-year or 5-year plan, which can help to provide a sense of purpose and stability. But what do you do when it becomes impossible to plan, as the rules which form the basis of the plans are constantly changing? Most respond by retreating into fear, creating an aggressive or defensive response; holding tightly to their opinion and making others who disagree wrong in order to feel safe in their beliefs.
Maybe it is time for some perspective. In truth, none of us really knows what the right answers are or the outcome will be…of anything! We can plan, suppose and guess, but we never truly know. This means we do not even know if our opinion is correct or if someone else has a more accurate perspective than we do. I am not talking about popular opinion, I am talking about the long-term outcomes. None of us actually know, do we? We can suppose, based upon our personal history and the data we have gathered, but that opinion is still, at best, nothing more than a guess.
So if none of us truly knows the long-term outcome of events, what right do we have to judge another for an opinion that differs from ours? I expect there will be some who are reading this and feeling triggered right now because you know you are right about certain situations or people. And maybe you are correct, or maybe you do not have all of the information and the person you are convinced is wrong is making a more informed decision than you. What makes you right and others wrong? It all comes down to information and how we sort through that information using our beliefs, which are informed by our experiences and reactions to those experiences. Sometimes, the very thing that appears on the surface to be most harmful is exactly what is required in order to create a beneficial outcome.
Please know, that with any controversial topic I may write or speak about, I never condone violence or intentional harm to self or others. The interesting thing is though, we may not even know if our message is causing harm. Using myself as an example, the Drink Milk campaign is one that could cause harm if I believed and followed their message. I am sensitive to dairy and the consumption leads to congestion, headaches and eventually sinus infections. Does that mean the dairy industry is intentionally causing me harm? Maybe and maybe not. In my ‘opinion’ dairy is less beneficial than advertised, but that does not make me 100% correct, it only makes me correct for me!
And in that small example lies the truth of perspective that we must all remember. What is correct for one, is not necessarily correct for all. Because an experience, activity, environment or food is correct for you, it does not mean it is correct for everyone and they are somehow misguided if they disagree with you. The more we can allow others to have an equally valid experience, the more we can be at peace even around those we disagree with. I am not suggesting this is easy, but it certainly is worthwhile.
Stepping into Sovereignty
You may have heard me speak in the past months about sovereignty, which refers to each individual standing in our personal power; but also understanding that power does not come from others agreeing with us, rather, it comes from within. Sovereignty means we are empowered to look within and find our own way based upon our own awareness, intuition, knowing. It means we may listen to what is being said around us, but also take the time to check-in and notice what is true and what is not for us personally. Aspects of sovereignty include free will, free speech and body autonomy. It includes the right to your opinion without being ridiculed for that opinion and also allowing others the same right. When we learn to stand comfortably in our own truth and not make others responsible for our experience, we can then act from open-minded and compassionate strength, we become sovereign. In a sovereign state, we are less likely to look to others for approval or judge them for disagreeing.
One of the things I have been reminded of repeatedly by the Galactic Council is that they are only there to help guide us into our own empowerment, into our own right answers, and into the place where each one of us needs to be. They will not tell us what we should believe, rather, they will give us perspectives and support us in arriving at our own opinions. They have no interest in popular opinion, or what the media tells us to believe; rather they know each one of us must come into the place that is right for us in order to be at peace. And in that place, we also have to be able to honour that others are in a different place. We need to be able to allow others to be where they are while continuing to honour where we are.
I find it so interesting the number of people who profess to be very open-minded, then say “I can accept everybody’s opinion, except for this person, their opinion is really stupid because I strongly disagree about….” These sentiments are usually related to one of the really divisive topics, which they will then justify because they agree with popular opinion, therefore they know they are right. The message is that it is okay to be in judgment of others for having a different opinion on some topics because most people agree on that topic. But this brings up a couple of questions. 1) Why do the majority have a common opinion? Maybe because there is a lot of encouragement to promote that particular opinion, or maybe few have stopped to reflect on the possibility that there are other options. 2) Do we actually know everything there is to know about a topic to justify an unmoving opinion of it? Most of our growth and new understanding comes from people whose opinions start out as controversial. These people are generally ridiculed until their views are proven to be true, or at least acceptable. This pattern can be traced back through the ages, think of Copernicus or Galileo, both considered heretics for their heliocentric views until this later became an accepted view.
We never seem to learn to have a more open mind about things we do not completely understand, which may actually be everything!
Perspective – Take a Step Back from the Need to Be Right
In my own life, I form an opinion based upon a set of information and my own personal history and beliefs; then I make this ‘the truth’. When I take a step back and really do my best to be open-minded to a variety of opinions I learn and grow. This may cause me to reevaluate my opinion or reinforce what I already believe. It also provides me with the space to entertain what others believe to be true, which in turn helps me to stay out of judgement of them. It is always good to remind myself that just because it is my current belief, it doesn’t mean it is always and exclusively right. It may be the right opinion for me at the time, but it doesn’t make it the only right opinion or even the one that best serves me for my entire life. As we learn and grow, so too will our beliefs and opinions. What fit me well when I was twenty does not serve me at all at sixty.
Perspective is so important to remember when we are having conversations with those we are in disagreement with. Are you listening to genuinely learn or to find a way to convince the other person of your point of view? Always remember, just because they present info that is in disagreement with ours, does not mean that their highest desire isn’t the same as ours. I believe that most people want is what is best for themselves, their family and humanity. I also believe there are many different ways that we can get there. So our best bet is to always see the other person in their best light. See their soul, their soul is doing the best it can to guide the person through their human experience. And the human element is doing its best to follow that guidance. Follow your own guidance, follow your light, be in your power; whatever that might mean for you; and always do your best to allow others to be in their own power and light as well. Know that you are a beautiful soul doing the best that you can too. Start from that place.
Law of Resonance
Once we enter into a place of personal sovereignty and allow others to do the same, we can begin to consciously create our own reality. The Galactic Council refers to this as the Law of Resonance, as we will always experience that which we resonate with. If we are filled with joy, we will draw more joy to us and if we are filled with dread we will draw more dread into our experience. The Law of Resonance helps us to move our awareness from thinking to feeling.
On that same note, if we are determined to make others wrong, we will attract ways to be wrong. So let’s be content with our own opinion and allow others to have theirs. Let’s choose joy, peace and compassion and strive to resonate with them. Let’s honour what we believe and how we feel, allowing our hearts to help with the navigation. An important tool in this journey is to find gratitude for all we have in life, rather than looking to find fault with all we do not have. In this compassionate and grateful state is where miracles can occur, where things work out just right because you believe in your heart of hearts it is going to work out.
Now is the time for us to let go of the judgement of others which creates division and do our best to come together in acceptance compassion, and connection.
