When does Observation become Judgement?

I know I have written before about observation vs. judgement and the importance of taking yourself out of a place of judgement and into a place of observation. But today I want to talk about it from a little different approach, one that will hopefully give you a new level of awareness about the impact of communication.
I have had the opportunity to make some interesting observations over the past while about observation vs. judgement. I will see one person expressing an observation, even with very little attachment to it, simply an observation of the current experience; and see another react strongly to it, as it rubs up against something they hold dear, or more likely, something they are trying to NOT believe about themselves.
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Let me explain…

The art of letting go of judgement is certainly an ongoing process. One of the base ways we function as a human is to decide if we like or do not like certain things. We form an opinion or judgement about them to decide what we choose and what we do not choose. So far, so good, right?

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Next step in the art of observation is to recognize that just because we do not like something, it does not make it bad. It is a valid choice, just not our choice. Example. Not liking the taste of a certain food does not make that food good or bad, it simply creates awareness about our choice to ingest it. 

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But what happens as you practice the art of observation and you get a strong reaction from someone else. It may knock you off your centre, cause you to wonder what you did or said that offended the other person. What has often happened in these situations is that the topic of conversation is a trigger for the other person, often a hidden trigger. They may not even know what they are reacting to, or why they are reacting so strongly.

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You make a comment from a place of ‘observation’ and they react from a place of judgement…self judgement…hidden self judgement! 

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Suddenly their feelings are hurt because you are ‘judging’ them, even though you had not intention to do so.

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Or maybe the interaction is exactly the opposite to this. They have made a comment that totally triggers you and you have a huge reaction, wondering how they could be so judgey, or why they would say such a thing.

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These are the golden moments that can create tremendous clarity for self, if you take the time to go within and simply acknowledge your feelings as a response to your beliefs, letting go of the guilt that you caused their reaction, or blamed that they caused yours.  

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What you say, believe, judge and perceive is about you, and what others say, believe, judge and perceive is about them.

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I am not suggesting it is okay to go around intentionally inflicting harm through comments to others, and then passing it off as their hurt feelings being their problem.  I am suggesting a process of self empowerment so what others say has less power over your state of being, as well as their reaction to what you say has less ability to inflict guilt for you.

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This can be referred to as Standing in the Centre of Your Own Orbit; understanding what shows up in your immediate circle has far more to do with you, who you are and what you vibrate, than it has to do with what others day, the state of the world, or what others are up to in their lives.

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Just imagine if everyone was able to operate from that centre, a place of no blame, no shame, and no guilt. That is the world I aim to create for myself. Some days I get there, other days – not so much! But at least I have the tools to get their most days.

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This is the world that I aspire to help others to create for themselves as well. To me, this is one of the definitions of peace, the power to step into the Centre of Your Own Orbit and deliberately create their own experience.
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If you wished to pursue this path to peace, understanding and empowerment, you may wish to consider studying with me. I offer a series of Soul Alignment Classes to assist people to get in touch with their intuition, find their centre and empower themselves.