Finding Balance

  • Words of Wisdom

    What if we were never really intended to be in balance all the time?

  • What if balance, as most people think of it, is an illusion?

Today I am going to share my musings and awareness on this age-old topic of Balance.

Think about it, how often in your life have you felt like everything is in balance? Like you spend the perfect amount of time and energy each day on yourself, your family, your community and your career?

I believe most of you would answer that question with a resounding NO. When you are in the midst of a tight deadline for your work, that is going to get the majority of your attention; yet when you go on vacation with your family they are the ones who receive the attention. If you are not feeling well, you would be wise to place more focus on yourself and your well being. On and on it goes… there are a million different circumstances that demand varying amounts of your attention at any given time. This is the normal ebb and flow of life.

We get things done by placing our attention upon the things that demand it at that time. I am not talking about being distracted by every little thing that comes along. I am referring to placing our attention upon the things in life that are truly valuable to us and require attention.

People do not achieve success in their chosen career by ignoring deadlines and dealing with it later when they happen to feel like it. So too, they do not go on vacation by simply deciding they wish to, it takes some intention and attention for the vacation to unfold.

I have had far too many people ask me in session and class about how to maintain balance and the answer I receive is consistent. There is no one definition for balance, and it is crucial to look at it from a larger perspective, not just day-to-day. I have, over time, come to believe that day-to-day balance is an illusion.

Of course, it is worthwhile to carve out some time each day/week for self-care, for family and friends, and for activities you enjoy.  But maybe there are some days that get more family time, and other days that get more self-care time. Does that mean you are out of balance? Not necessarily, it may mean you are responding appropriately to circumstances.

If we look at balance from a larger perspective, that is when we can begin to see patterns evolve. If you look at your life, and you are always too busy to exercise or take care of yourself, that is not balanced. Similarly, if you look at your life and you are consistently putting in 60-70 hours a week at work and never see your family, that is not balanced. On the other hand, spending all day, every day doing nothing is not balanced either.

However, if you take a step back and see bits of intense activity focused on career, family, friends, self-care and personal development, then you may be living a more balanced life than you give yourself credit for.

My advice is to follow your passions, get excited and caught up in things, give it all your energy at the time it is needed. Just be sure to do that will all aspects of your life. Give your undivided attention to friends, family, career and self at various times throughout your days and weeks. Undivided attention is far more valuable (particularly to other people in your life) than fitting everything into every day and only giving each thing a fraction of your attention.

Live large, live intensely and find your own balance. 

If you wish to learn more about Finding Balance, you are invited to my upcoming three-part Transmission of Light Series which addresses the physical, emotional and spiritual components of our awakening. This series will be happening in April, May and June 2018.

Being Enough

There is so much information, everywhere we look, about how to improve, to be better, to change, to beat the competition. And the list goes on, and one. I was looking through a list of Women’s Empowerment books on a website today and the theme of having to ‘do more’ really stood out.

But what if you were actually perfect, just the way you are? What if there is nothing to add, just a few self-judgments to take away? When we were young children, we never doubted we were enough – that was a learned behaviour; one we learned from society. We learned it from all the other people who also believe they are not enough, which they learned from the generations before them, and so it has gone, for far too long.

Here is a brief excerpt from the message transmitted to the group during the February Transmission of Light which reminds us of just how grand we already are.

“We wish for you to go back to the heart, back into that place of knowing self or maybe questioning self. You may call it either one. Go into that heart space and give yourself permission to be the wise, to be the grounded, to be the centred being that you are. In truth, you are these vast, wise, intelligent beings who have been crammed into these 3rd-dimensional bodies to have this physical experience. That is not who you are. That is a very small element of who you are. You are so much more than that, so much more wisdom, so much more light. It is time for that wisdom to take its next step of opening and awakening. That is not to say your forsake your precious body, rather honour all that you are, not just part of it.” 

We are not able to settle honestly and authentically into that wisdom if we are busy judging self and feeling the need to be fixed or improve. Maybe it is time to just ‘be enough exactly as you are’ and finally surrender to your vastness, beauty and wisdom.

You have probably noticed a theme in my musing for 2018, a theme of surrender. This is an 11 year (2+0+1+8) which is Mastery. It is not about being or doing more, rather it is about recognizing our innate worth, as humans an as divine cosmic beings. That spark (soul) housed in our human container is pure magic, yet we are so focused on the perceived flaws in the container, we completely miss the magic of the spark that gives us life.

A brief affirmation that you may find beneficial is “I surrender all that I think I am, I surrender all that I think I know, I surrender to my beauty, my wisdom and my worth. I am perfect, whole and complete exactly as I am”. Of course you are welcome to add other things to surrender, however, I recommend you keep it simple and manageable. The more often you repeat these words, the more you will give yourself permission to ‘be enough’.

I challenge you to practice repeating this affirmation multiple times each day and notice if you are able to be more loving and gentle with yourself and others.

If you are feeling ready to surrender all the baggage you have taken on from the world around you, then come on over and join me in my upcoming Find Your JOY Class or maybe book a Personal Breakthrough session. It is time to ‘be enough’.