Sadly, most of us never learn internal centring processes, so when chaos descends the only place we know to look for a solution, is external to us. And while finding someone to blame for our current crisis may provide some temporary relief, it does nothing to truly make peace and empower us to create different, more supportive experiences in the future.
Once we begin to understand that we are truly the creator of our own experience [Law of Attraction] we can begin to create our experiences consciously. Does this mean nothing bad ever happens in the lives of empowered people? No, we all still have a wide range of experiences, some we classify as good and some as bad. These experiences include loss, and as a physical being, we will miss those we love when they are absent, and we will grieve. Our ability to find our center and enter into a state of self-awareness can ease our response to loss and facilitate our ability to make peace with difficult situations.
So how do we center and empower ourselves? There are several ways to create self-awareness and different approaches work for different people. A few of my favourite tools include:
- Energy healing – this can assist in relaxing as well as help to release associated emotion
- Meditation – when you have a regular meditation practice this can immediately assist in moving from a stressed state into a calm and centred state. It is best that your first attempt at mediation is not when you are extremely upset, as meditation does take practice to perfect.
- Forgiveness – my chosen process is to work with the technology of Ho’oponopono, which is actually far more than forgiveness, but that is a great place to start. In its most simple form you repeat “I am sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you” while holding the person or situation in your heart, continuing to say the words until you feel your attitude shifting.
- Conscious breathing – move into a state of awareness of the breath and the body. While there are many different breath techniques there is no one ‘right’ technique. Try slowing, deepening and extending your breath to start with. Then explore other breath practices and see what works best for you.
- Sound healing – sound impacts our state of being, and different music will work for different people and at different times. In general, it is best to look to soft, gentle and relaxing sounds to help shift you into a more settled and centred state.
- Gentle and conscious movement of the body such as stretching, Tai Chi, yoga or Qigong, which may be combined with music and breath work for maximum benefit.
- Create awareness through journaling, verbal exploration, oracle cards and intuitive inquiry. Again, try our a few things and see what works best for you.
- Reframing and refocusing to provide the opportunity to look at situations but through a new lens. The situation itself may not change, but your view and attitude to it can. And a funny thing happens, when we shift our focus and attitude about experiences, we begin to notice that the experiences change.
I’ve come to realize that all my teaching, coaching and channelling all have the common focus of providing guidance, energy healing and information to empower my clients and students. This process assists you to change your perception, which then changes your experience, and opens the door to greater acceptance of yourself and those around you. These are also processes you can learn for yourself, and as you do so, you become even more able to create your own future. As you learn to trust your intuition and examine situations from a variety of angles, surrendering judgments of yourself and others, you open the path to freedom from emotional turmoil and chaos.
This is not something that happens overnight, it is a process of learning about the techniques or tools and consistently applying them until this becomes your natural response to a crisis when it appears. And the particularly fun thing is that the more you center and empower yourself, and consciously practice the Law of Attraction, the less you will need to respond to crisis! To me, that is truly a win-win situation.
A couple of the ways I can assist you to develop these tools is through the Find Your JOY class happening online in August 2019 or through the Soul Alignment Online Program starting up again in the fall.
There has been enough controversy stirred around Doreen Virtue and her complete reversal on all things metaphysical that I felt it was time that I provided my take on the changes occurring.
As you may, or may not know, Doreen Virtue was one (of many) of my teachers a number of years back. Her teachings were a fit with all I had learned in my prior years of studying, and I went on, with her blessings, to incorporate some of those teachings about Angels into my own Soul Alignment classes. Over the years, I found that I outgrew the glitzy, theatrical presentation of her work and gravitated to a more solid and grounded approach to my own energy healing and intuitive guidance.
Compassion or Judgement?
In spite of moving away from her work, I still found value in a variety of aspects if her teachings such as connection to the angels; open acceptance of others beliefs; trust in our own innate guidance; and compassion for all. So it was with interest that I observed her announcement in 2017 that she had found Jesus and incorporated Bible quotes into her work. And then with dismay in 2018 that she began to preach that all non-fundamental Christian practices were ‘spiritually dangerous’. And if you dared disagree with her, you were possessed by demons yourself.
These implications are narrow-minded and filled with fear. This particular setup of guilt-inducing statements is called a double bind; where an attempt is made to control another person’s opinion by suggesting that anything but agreeing is somehow less than, and therefore wrong. I do not believe for a moment that God is a harsh judge that provided a narrow set of teachings to one select group of people while deeming everyone else as sinners, yet that is exactly what her statements imply.
I cannot imagine what might have happened to Doreen, for her to have made such a drastic change in her views, and I will not try to guess. All I can do is wish her well, and pray that she may find the peace that she seems to be so desperately seeking.
I have had some people question their own foundational beliefs as well as my teaching in light of this drastic change. I wish to assure you that I still stand fully behind all of the materials that I teach. I know the teachings that I share is a gift from Source and filled with love, compassion, and wisdom.
New Age or Ancient Wisdom?
While Doreen has lumped all belief systems that are not Christianity together as part of New Age and dismissed them as evil, she includes yoga, meditation, shamanism, pagan practices, drumming, Flower of Life and sweat lodges! These beautiful and light-filled practices all predate the bible by hundreds or even thousands of years.
She claims she only wishes to help people, but then goes on to insult so many spiritual, ethnic and cultural groups around the globe it is almost beyond belief.
What About Cards?
People have also been asking me what to do with her products. While I would encourage you to no longer purchase or sell her products, I would also encourage you to continue to use the ones you have.
Her books and cards were all written in integrity and still carry a tremendous amount of light and wisdom. Just take the time to check in with each of your products and see if they are still genuinely in alignment with you and your truth. If the cards are feeling a little heavy or off, take the time to clear them, and then check in again.
If, after you have cleared your cards, they still do not feel right for you, take a moment to notice if you are standing in judgment of Doreen or her cards. If so, is this a judgment you wish to release? Once you have checked in to the root of your discord, you will know if the deck of cards is still for you. If so, bless them and keep using them; if not, bless them and give them away.
First Be Kind
While I honour Doreen’s choice to follow the path of Christianity if that is what brings her peace. I cannot honour the disrespect she has shown to so many with her offensive statements about all belief systems that are not her own. There is no kindness in this belittling viewpoint.
I wish each of you a beautiful day filled with love, light, compassion, and understanding.
What if we were never really intended to be in balance all the time?
- What if balance, as most people think of it, is an illusion?
Today I am going to share my musings and awareness on this age-old topic of Balance.
Think about it, how often in your life have you felt like everything is in balance? Like you spend the perfect amount of time and energy each day on yourself, your family, your community and your career?
I believe most of you would answer that question with a resounding NO. When you are in the midst of a tight deadline for your work, that is going to get the majority of your attention; yet when you go on vacation with your family they are the ones who receive the attention. If you are not feeling well, you would be wise to place more focus on yourself and your well being. On and on it goes… there are a million different circumstances that demand varying amounts of your attention at any given time. This is the normal ebb and flow of life.
We get things done by placing our attention upon the things that demand it at that time. I am not talking about being distracted by every little thing that comes along. I am referring to placing our attention upon the things in life that are truly valuable to us and require attention.
People do not achieve success in their chosen career by ignoring deadlines and dealing with it later when they happen to feel like it. So too, they do not go on vacation by simply deciding they wish to, it takes some intention and attention for the vacation to unfold.
I have had far too many people ask me in session and class about how to maintain balance and the answer I receive is consistent. There is no one definition for balance, and it is crucial to look at it from a larger perspective, not just day-to-day. I have, over time, come to believe that day-to-day balance is an illusion.
Of course, it is worthwhile to carve out some time each day/week for self-care, for family and friends, and for activities you enjoy. But maybe there are some days that get more family time, and other days that get more self-care time. Does that mean you are out of balance? Not necessarily, it may mean you are responding appropriately to circumstances.
If we look at balance from a larger perspective, that is when we can begin to see patterns evolve. If you look at your life, and you are always too busy to exercise or take care of yourself, that is not balanced. Similarly, if you look at your life and you are consistently putting in 60-70 hours a week at work and never see your family, that is not balanced. On the other hand, spending all day, every day doing nothing is not balanced either.
However, if you take a step back and see bits of intense activity focused on career, family, friends, self-care and personal development, then you may be living a more balanced life than you give yourself credit for.
My advice is to follow your passions, get excited and caught up in things, give it all your energy at the time it is needed. Just be sure to do that will all aspects of your life. Give your undivided attention to friends, family, career and self at various times throughout your days and weeks. Undivided attention is far more valuable (particularly to other people in your life) than fitting everything into every day and only giving each thing a fraction of your attention.
Live large, live intensely and find your own balance.
If you wish to learn more about Finding Balance, you are invited to my upcoming three-part Transmission of Light Series which addresses the physical, emotional and spiritual components of our awakening. This series will be happening in April, May and June 2018.
There is so much information, everywhere we look, about how to improve, to be better, to change, to beat the competition. And the list goes on, and one. I was looking through a list of Women’s Empowerment books on a website today and the theme of having to ‘do more’ really stood out.
But what if you were actually perfect, just the way you are? What if there is nothing to add, just a few self-judgments to take away? When we were young children, we never doubted we were enough – that was a learned behaviour; one we learned from society. We learned it from all the other people who also believe they are not enough, which they learned from the generations before them, and so it has gone, for far too long.
Here is a brief excerpt from the message transmitted to the group during the February Transmission of Light which reminds us of just how grand we already are.
“We wish for you to go back to the heart, back into that place of knowing self or maybe questioning self. You may call it either one. Go into that heart space and give yourself permission to be the wise, to be the grounded, to be the centred being that you are. In truth, you are these vast, wise, intelligent beings who have been crammed into these 3rd-dimensional bodies to have this physical experience. That is not who you are. That is a very small element of who you are. You are so much more than that, so much more wisdom, so much more light. It is time for that wisdom to take its next step of opening and awakening. That is not to say your forsake your precious body, rather honour all that you are, not just part of it.”
We are not able to settle honestly and authentically into that wisdom if we are busy judging self and feeling the need to be fixed or improve. Maybe it is time to just ‘be enough exactly as you are’ and finally surrender to your vastness, beauty and wisdom.
You have probably noticed a theme in my musing for 2018, a theme of surrender. This is an 11 year (2+0+1+8) which is Mastery. It is not about being or doing more, rather it is about recognizing our innate worth, as humans an as divine cosmic beings. That spark (soul) housed in our human container is pure magic, yet we are so focused on the perceived flaws in the container, we completely miss the magic of the spark that gives us life.
A brief affirmation that you may find beneficial is “I surrender all that I think I am, I surrender all that I think I know, I surrender to my beauty, my wisdom and my worth. I am perfect, whole and complete exactly as I am”. Of course you are welcome to add other things to surrender, however, I recommend you keep it simple and manageable. The more often you repeat these words, the more you will give yourself permission to ‘be enough’.
I challenge you to practice repeating this affirmation multiple times each day and notice if you are able to be more loving and gentle with yourself and others.
If you are feeling ready to surrender all the baggage you have taken on from the world around you, then come on over and join me in my upcoming Find Your JOY Class or maybe book a Personal Breakthrough session. It is time to ‘be enough’.